About the Book:
Find Peace…One POP at a Time
Roland Griffith has a simple but powerful message for you: Don’t believe you are stuck in depression, stress, and moodiness. Griffith knows you can overcome paralyzing fear and negative stories from the past, because he did it himself. In this easy-to-follow guide, he will teach you how to do so as well.
Griffith has been where you may be now. His life felt empty, incomplete, and burdensome. Even after a diagnosis of depression, prescribed medications, and talk therapy, he was desperate enough to attempt suicide.
What changed in Griffith’s life to move him from being stuck in misery to being joyful and alive? He dug in to a huge body of research on depression, reading hundreds of books, until he found his own formula for overcoming it. Now, he shares his solution, which requires less effort than brushing your teeth every day.
An easy guide to overcoming depression
In this book, Griffith gives you the simple steps to move past depression, medication, and therapy to take control of your life all by yourself. His method utilizes POPs—Pieces of Peace—which are self-generated momentary breaks in your constant stream of negative memories and fears. He’ll help you:
- Understand how negative mental chatter leads to depression
- Master POPs, one step at a time, to turn off the mind patterns that cause pain and suffering
- Practice simple exercises for overcoming the tricks your mind uses to keep you unhappy
- Track your day-to-day progress from constant stress to more happiness each day
Roland Griffith founded and ran three companies and supervised dozens of employees, all while dealing with constant and ever-increasing feelings of hopelessness and fear.
After creating and using his POPs formula for more than a decade, he looks forward to waking up every day because his life is full of things he loves to do, and he can’t wait to see what happens next.
Griffith lives in the Kansas City area with his wife, Connie, where he is an author, a public speaker, an avid golfer, and a leader in his various business ventures.
Testimonials and Reviews
Jerry W. Willis
I am writing this to corroborate what he has said about himself.
He was a fun kid in high school. I did not realize the extent of his pain until he told me about his marriage break up and his suicide attempt.
a short time later he called me and said he was in the hospital and I went to see him. He was vague about why he was there and I didn’t pursue an explanation.
I suspect many people go through various stages of depression including me.
I also read several books looking for answers.
One book was The Power of Now by Ekert Tolle. He sat on a park bench for 2 years trying to figure out what Roland is telling us.
I found Ekert Tollie’s book to be a little deep or esoteric for me anyway.
Roland book says pretty much the same thing in simple easy to understand and follow instructions.
This book is a quick read with a lot of wisdom. If anyone is going through this pain or has a friend that may have a problem they should read Find Peace one pop at a time. It is a quick read – maybe an hour or so.
A friend of mine said little by little you will understand. Roland’s book points out the same thing by starting with 2 seconds you will build up to minutes of peace and with practice you will learn you are in charge of your peace anytime you want it.
Like Roland, many of us bluff our way along but you don’t need to
The only observation I'd like to make on this book, has to do with Griffith's view on Religion. He was brought up a fire and brimstone Christian, and it ruined the truths of that religion for him. He removed himself from grace, to the point where he was blaming much of his depression on feelings of inadequacy caused by fire and brimstone sermons. For anyone who's cracked the surface of Jesus' teachings, you quickly discover how unchristian that hellfire Christianity really is. I never saw the truth, until I studied Buddhism. The truth is the truth, whether Jesus, or Buddha is talking. After the avatar leaves this plane, the chain of initiation is often broken, leaving the ideal spiritual state unrealized, by the leaders of the Church or community. So they teach from their own limited spiritual awareness, and not from the revelations of the founding prophet. Jesus told us not to worry. "Consider the lilies of the field. They neither toil nor spin, but Solomon in all his splendor, was not arrayed in as fine as clothing as them." So many things Christ taught, was about how to NOT worry. ("Let the dead bury the dead", etc.) This is so central a concept, that the basic prayer of Christ, said, "Give us this day our daily bread", leaving life worries to God, not to man's efforts. Of course, the other central concept ,was being non judgmental. That hasn't seemed to impress many Christians either, over the years. So unfortunately, its' very difficult to gain spiritual insights, thru many organized forms of Christianity today. So many of us, study eastern religions, hoping to discover a method to overcome the darkness, in our lives. I found the best method of overcoming worry and anger, firmly rooted in the practices of Christian mystics and monks. First, use the Jesus prayer, as a way to short circuit the worry of the mind. (Lord Jesus Christ, son of God, have mercy upon me, a sinner------------its based on the prayer of the blind man to Jesus, in the Gospels. Repeat it ad infinitum. Much used in Orthodox Christianity.) The other method, is meditation on the Gospels. Lectio Divina, its known as. So, when you're ready to curse someone, think back to how Jesus would respond to the same problem. And believe me, there's nothing going on in this world, that Jesus didn't seem to have to deal with. Pull together some prayer for world peace, meditation, a Jesus prayer for really tough times, meditation on Jesus' teachings, and a kind heart. That should help you beat chronic, severe depression. You'll still be sad from time to time, after all, even Christ as a "man of sorrows", and even Solomon said, "Much wisdom is much Sorrow". However, you probably wont go saving up pain medicine, in order to check out early. So, I say all this just to let you know, the culprit of people who are not helped from Christianity, isn't any lack of a viable path inside the gospels, or the history of the great saints, but rather ignorant, hateful preachers, lustful priests, and greedy TV evangelists, clouding over and obscuring the truth of Christ. If you look enough, you'll find medieval meditation guides written in Europe, great saints who found the path, and the utter truth of a good life, in the gospels. If you still cant see it, listen to Siddhartha Gautama, aka Lord Buddha, teach the same truths. Once you're eyes and heart open up, go to Jesus, to discover the completion of the teachings. Christianity is a viable path to peace. It was founded by a POP (Prince Of Peace.)
I was provided a free book for review purposes.
W. T. Hoffman
In his Introduction Roland sets the tone of the book; ‘Through years of study, I discovered that a constant flow of thoughts in the background of my mind was affecting everything in my life: how I related to others, my physical well being, my decision making, and my overall attitude. When I understood how the mind operates and developed a way to work with it, I was able to create my own moments of peace. The mind is always busy generating thoughts, whether you are aware of them or not. The thoughts can be simple and neutral— observations and comments about what’s happening at the moment; or they can be judgmental, negative, and harmful, as when they tell you how worthless you are or how hopeless your life is. We can call this constant stream of thoughts “mental chatter.” Negative mental chatter is the cause of a problematic life. Often the ongoing thoughts are preoccupied with something regrettable from the past— an event that happened earlier in your life or last week or today.’
As is outlined in the synopsis, ‘If you have tendencies toward depression—frequent moodiness and feelings that life is too hard and there’s nothing to live for—Roland wrote this book for you. His is a remarkable story, told frankly and simply. He tells about his restrictive, religious background in which he was raised, and the guilt that accompanied his expanding awareness of the world. Although he became a successful businessman and attained financial and material success, Roland was plagued by internal doubts, fears, and depression. Medicated and miserable, he began a long search for a way out of the darkness that haunted him. A failed attempt at suicide in 2000 convinced him to increase his efforts to find a way out. He discovered that his mind was constantly feeding him negative chatter, causing him distress and unhappiness. He developed a technique to turn down the volume of that chatter that enabled him—finally—to emerge from depression. He has been practicing it every day since then, and now he looks forward to waking up every morning. His life is full of hope and joy.’
As simple as his book sounds it stands on firm ground in coaching us on how to defeat depression and find those Pieces of Peace. Highly Recommended.
Roland Griffith's story is a testimony to how important it is to live in the serenity of the present rather than to concern ourselves with what we can't change (the past) and what is still unknown (the future). As the great twentieth-century philosopher Ludwig Wittgenstein wrote, "Eternal life belongs to those who live in the present" (Tractatus, 6.4311). Although I have never suffered from depression, as someone who has suffered from obsessive-compulsive tendencies, I can vouch for the importance of learning to live in the present if one is going to live a psychologically healthy life.
Mary B. Lucas
A. B. Curtiss, author of Depression is a Choice
Griffith's personal journey through the painful experience of depression caused him to develop this sound, no-nonsense practice. When I work with it, a day filled with negativity or limitation can turn into an entirely different experience...in the moment. That's TRULY where we need to be.
I will keep it on my coffee table or side table as a reminder to always know the power of POP's! :)!!
I finished your book before I went to bed last night. I was impressed at how open and honest you were about your journey and your hope and desire is that the book will help other people.
I found the book to be well thought out and presented in a way that was easy to follow.
Congratulations, well done. I'm so glad that you now have peace and everyday happiness. Your sunny disposition and friendship mean a lot to me
"Negative mental chatter is the cause of a problematic life."
"The more often you elect to step out of your stream of negative thoughts, the less influence they will have on your feelings and moods.... As you turn down the volume of mental chatter, life will become easier." NO quick fix though! Be prepared for this to take time!
Your thought stream and whether you are living in the past, present or future does and can make a difference. Where are you most of the time? Take the 60 second test in Chapter 8 to find out.
Roland was a go-getter and hard worker who owned his own Ford dealership by the time he was in his early 30's. However, this does not mean that he was "living a life of ease". Guilt which he attributes to growing up in a "hellfire and damnation" home had been present from an early age but now moodiness was creeping up on him gradually, so gradually in fact that he didn't even see it. At the age of 40, arguments with his wife were increasing. Doing the sensible thing they went for marriage counseling. It was here that Roland was diagnosed with "severe depression". Having never read a book in his life (no typo here), when given one by the psychiatrist, he found he couldn't put it down. Along with the book he was 'introduced' to Prozac and 18 long years of psychiatric drugs.
Sadly in 1997 Roland's 32 year marriage fell apart, much of which he blames on the depression. Married again in 2000, one day he decided to end it all. Why did this suicide attempt not work? The breakthrough came in 2003 but only lasted about a year after which he began to feel himself slipping back. This is where Pieces of Peace (POPS) came in. Will it help change your life also?
This book is well written, not heavily technical but full of practical advice for those who are experiencing what Roland went through. Book provided in exchange for an honest review. Thanks, Liz
The introduction to the book immediately made me like the author and want to hear his story. It was written in such a straight-forward, direct manner. And, frankly, in his first few sentences I could relate to the fact that what he had experienced in terms of depression was exactly what I have and do experience - perhaps not at the same level - but when being honest with myself, the depression and anxiety are certainly there.
I really liked the gray page with the "synopsis" statement, which started each chapter. Some of these statements could be used as affirmations or be placed around the house to remind me to do a POP. Maybe the book could contain a pocket in the back with some of these POP reminders that could be placed on mirrors, doors, counters, desks, etc. The process of doing a POP will not take place if we do not remember to do a POP.
It was an easy read, totally clear, and motivating enough that with one quick reading, I felt that I had a technique that could be used to change my thinking.